Thee Farm Wife

Thee Farm Wife

Saturday, October 31, 2015


Thirty-one days to journey from Conceit to Complete. I don't know about you, but I have noticed little changes in my life as I have taken the focus off of me and have looked to Jesus as my example - my measuring stick.

We've talked about commandments and how life is not full of "Thou shall nots" but rather, "Serve. Sacrifice. Love."

We've talked about making commitments and keeping them. Something a few of my very dear friends will tell you I need to keep working on!

We've learned what Communion really is - a feast of thanksgiving for Thee One who died once, for all.

I bared my soul and told you about my conversion. Confessed. Connected. Considered.

But Thee Main purpose for this thirty-one day journey was to lead you to Thee Cross. To convince you that this is all very real.

I will never stop sharing my story with you because I want so very much for you to believe - not so you can be like me - but so that you can discover a faith all of your very own. So that you, too, can be set free from your past, and fully live this amazing life that is spilled out before you.

I confess I wasn't telling you the whole truth and nothing but Thee Truth when I told you we would become complete by today. The Bible says we won't become complete til the day Jesus returns.

So stay with me on this journey of hope?

I promise to share what's on my heart. Encourage you. Teach you. Answer your questions and love on you.

We can grow together.

Now, promise me you won't eat all of the Reese's you take from your kids' treat bags tonight? It's my birthday. You can send them to me.

Friday, October 30, 2015

Day Thirty: Commission

I had no idea that four years ago our lives would be drastically changed.

Tonight, on the eve of my 43rd birthday, I sit here in this noisy, chaotic and terribly messy house, and wonder what life would be like if a miracle hadn't happened. 

You see, four years ago I fell in love with a little boy. A very sick and neglected little boy with eyes so blue that seemed to look right down into my very soul.

And I knew, with all of my heart, that God was calling me to help him. I scooped him up and took him home and bathed his broken little body. Thee Farmer stood guard in the bathroom doorway and watched me cry as I washed away layers of dirt. 

Right now, with tears streaming down my face, I remember how traumatic it was for all of us. For him, because he had really known no human interaction and for us to see so much suffering. 

We cleaned him up and did what we knew how to do best, LOVE.

Tonight, I have to write this to remind myself what God has called me to do. I am a mother to five wonderful children. I am a wife of an amazing (and handsome!) man. God has called me to this right here, right now. He has commissioned me to sacrifice self and instead invest in those around me. 

One child was more than enough for me, back in the day. But then, I started praying for a husband because we were so lonely. Then we started praying for another child and Jaima arrived. For five more years we prayed and cried out to Him to send us another child, and then our first miracle came, Jaiden. 

Fast forward to today and two more precious miracle boys added to our family. 

It's a lot to handle. 

Honestly? Tonight I am questioning God's calling on my life. There is never enough patience, silence, or peace. Because I forget to fill up on the Truth of His Word. And I end up a hot mess. And yelling, "How can I be a Christian mom in all of this chaos?!?!?!?!?!?!"

Yep, I said it. I spoke the truth. When Thee Stuff of life happens and you get caught up in the moment your church face comes off and its gets real. (Up in here.)

I sit here and whisper:

You made me.
You are my strength.
You are right here.
This is who I am meant to be.
This is the way it is and you are not going to leave me in the middle of the mess.

I hear little voices crying for me. It's bedtime and their sweet little faces need kisses and they need to hear stories and know that they are loved.

This, I can do. I can love. It's all He has asked me to do.

Just love.

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Fervent: a book review

I honestly had given up on my prayer life. I was tired of praying and not being able to be effective. Something was blocking me from truly opening up before God. Then two things happened, I read the book Fervent by Priscilla Shirer and I saw the movie War Room.

By the second page, I knew what had happened to me. I had forgotten who I was fighting against. Not what, but who! (Whom? yikes, it's been so long since English 101.) 

You see, my friend, you have got to identify your enemy. You have just one. Your co-worker is not your enemy. Your husband is not your enemy. Neither are your in-laws or that person driving waaaaay too slow in front of you.

The enemy is Satan. He is alive and he is the Prince of Darkness. He prowls the Earth seeking to destroy you and me. God's people are his target. 

Let me assure you of two things: he's already defeated and you've already won. But you've got to fight, girl! 

Fight for your marriage.
Fight for your kids.
Fight for your career.
Fight for your church.
Fight for your friends.
Fight for your health and the health of those you love.
Fight for the orphans and widows.
Fight for your country.

Equip yourself and fight! 

Priscilla writes with passion and a voice that says, "I'm fighting right along side you!" If you want to reignite your prayer life or learn how to fight on your knees then I highly recommend this book. Write in it. Underline. Make a plan. She will guide you through the steps and help strengthen your prayers with Biblical principles.

I have a copy of Fervent to giveaway. One lucky winner will be drawn on Monday, November 2nd, 2015. All you have to do is leave a comment here on the blog and say,"I'm ready to fight!"

If you can't wait to get a copy, you can purchase one here:
 Get your copy!

Disclosure: I am a Lifeway/B&H blogger and received a free copy of the book in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.

Conduct: Weapons of Warfare

From Conceit to Complete...are we there yet?

It's a brand new day and while the sun is not shining here at Thee Farm, we did receive an inch of rain. Which makes Thee Farmer a happy farmer. 

I've been thinking about you a lot. Like up at night, suddenly awake, and wondering, "What else can I tell her to help her focus on Jesus?"

We sang a song in Sunday school and it went something like this:

Read your Bible, pray every day, and you'll grow, grow, GROW!

Whether you are a lifelong believer, a new believer, or you just aren't quite sure yet, I invite you to take a fresh look at God's Word. 

From Thee Beginning to Thee End, there is a constant theme - God created and God loves. 

Yes, there are battles and Laws and murder and miracles and weird stuff and long lists of names. There are prostitutes and love letters and battle cries. There are amazing transformations and some stories that will make you shake your head. There are visions and dreams and prayers and wisdom. A talking donkey, too. 

God made you. Created you and knew you when you were in your mother's womb. You are not a mistake. You are loved. 

1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

Take a deep breath and know this:

Philippians 1:6 
He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.

You are not ugly. You are not worthless.

God is within you. You will not fail. God will help you at the break of day! 
Psalm 46:5

When you read His Words and memorize them you can bring them to mind night when you are scared, when you are feeling low, when your kiddos are out of control, when you feel like all is lost. He is there with words to lift you up.

Next comes prayer. 

Prayer is nothing more than this: acknowledging that He is God and you are not. Placing your life in His hands. Surrendering. 

He is not Santa Claus. You can't ask Him to bring you a Ferrari. Well, you can, but that's another post for another day. 

We don't manipulate God with prayer, rather we come into His presence and still ourselves and pour out our hearts. 

Now, how about starting your day ready for battle?

Above all, you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing together with one spirit and one purpose, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News. Philippians 1:27 NLT

Stand firm. Stand together. Fight for our faith. 

Tuesday, October 27, 2015


(Confession #337: My house is a mess as I write this. I had a tooth extracted yesterday and nothing has been done. We ate mac and cheese for dinner. Just keeping it real.)

Who do you consult when you have a legal issue? A lawyer.

Who you consult if you have an engine problem? A mechanic.

Who do you consult when you want to know an outcome? Your horoscope? The stars? A psychic?

 “‘Do not turn to mediums or seek out spiritists, for you will be defiled by them. 
I am the Lord your God."
 Leviticus 19:31

"When someone tells you to consult mediums and spiritists, who whisper and mutter, should not a people inquire of their God? 
Why consult the dead on behalf of the living?" 
Isaiah 19:31

If you have consulted with the other side then it's time to take back what Satan has tried to steal from you: peace and joy.

Watch this:

There is a battle for your soul. And you belong to Jesus. 

Tomorrow, a book review on Fervent by Priscilla Shirer. A book that radically changed my life in one paragraph.

Until then, rest well, my friend. 

It is well with my soul. 

  1. When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
    When sorrows like sea billows roll;
    Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
    It is well, it is well with my soul.
    • Refrain:
      It is well with my soul,
      It is well, it is well with my soul.
  2. Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
    Let this blest assurance control,
    That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,
    And hath shed His own blood for my soul.
  3. My sin—oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!—
    My sin, not in part but the whole,
    Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
    Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!
  4. For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:
    If Jordan above me shall roll,
    No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life
    Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.
  5. But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
    The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
    Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
    Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!
  6. And Lord, haste the day when the faith shall be sight,
    The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
    The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
    Even so, it is well with my soul.
  7. Horatio G. Spafford, 1873

Monday, October 26, 2015


we are almost there. We are well on our way to finding completion in Jesus!

"being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you 
will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
 Philippians 1:6

That means that what God has begun to awaken in you will be made complete in Jesus!

Are you feeling like you are ready to kick off your heels and dive into a new way of life? One where you are not just thinking all about you but one where you start to serve and recognize that other people have needs, too? 

Have you confessed your need for forgiveness?

Have you tried to eliminate the chaos in your life?

Have you committed yourself to living for Him?

Are you learning to communicate? To live a life that when people see you they don't see a hypocrite but a true shining example of Christ?

What about the company you keep? Have you tried to find positive, uplifting friends?

Do you feel like you are living in communion with your fellow believers?

Maybe you still have questions about salvation...maybe you need to hear this tonight...

God loves you. All of you. Deep down inside you know that this is true. There's a need in the depth of our souls that if it hasn't been filled up you will feel an intense emptiness and longing for something that you can't even describe. I'm telling you my friend, you need you some Jesus. A whole lot of Jesus. 

You are not a failure. You are "fearfully and wonderfully made." (Psalm 139:14) You are worth more than rubies. You are valued and you have been redeemed if you believe that He went to that cross for you.

If God can give me a hundred chances and not give up on me and still forgive me when I fail - which is just about every day - then know this, my friend, He will give you a hundred and one chances. But I'm begging you, please start today. It's never, ever too late to start again. 

Unless you die, and then that's the end. If you die and don't know Him, then I'm afraid that's it. So why not choose love now? My heart aches for you. I want you to have peace. I want you to know what complete joy feels like no matter what the circumstances. I want you to heal. To feel genuine forgiveness. I want you to shout from the rooftops and share your story of redemption with the whole world.

Crazy? Yeah, once upon a time I thought that, too. But here I am, and I'm telling you, it's all real. There is completeness in Christ. 

Sunday, October 25, 2015


You've got to be around people if you want to go from Conceit to Complete. Remember, we are learning that when we take the focus off of ourselves we can begin to live a real life. 

For those of you who haven't been around since Thee Beginning of Thee Blog, let me introduce myself. i.e. let's connect!

Why all the Thee's? Because I'm married to Thee Farmer. Have been since 2002. We have five children and one future daughter-in-love. Cody& Abby, Jaima, Jaiden, AJ and Little A. Cody has flown the coop so that leaves four kiddos aged 2 to 13 at home. We farm in Northeast Iowa - cows, corn and beans. 

I am a former radio deejay and morning show personality. Which I retired from when I met Thee Farmer. Because being Thee Farm Wife was much more important than being a deejay (which was my childhood dream and not everyone can say that they got to grow up and be who they wanted to be!) 

Second on my list was farm wife. Honest. I had a woman in my life growing up that was a farm wife and we spent many summers on their farm. I wanted the farm house, the chickens, geese and roosters. I wanted a big barn with a hay mow and cats and sheep and goats and a spider like Charlotte. I had a huge imagination. Most of all, more than all of those things, I wanted simplicity. I wanted to cook big meals and live in the country. Take care of my husband and kids and have lots of fun and faith.

I never really thought that I would grow up to be Thee Farm Wife, but here I am just living the dream. 

What I love about where I am is our family. Thee Farmer and his brother work side-by-side. Our kiddos get to see family every day. All of our children get to play and laugh and work together. It's an intertwining of lives that really has no words that are capable of explaining it. Just lots of love and patience and learning and leaning on each other. With tears in my eyes, I can honestly say that this life is beyond my wildest dreams.

Thee Farmer and I are so blessed. We roll with the punches. We always get back up again. I don't know how many times he has told me, with the most sincere honesty, "We'll get through it." And we always have,

I could also write about infertility and adoption and manure and cattle breeding and cooking big meals and doing laundry four times a day. 

I will save all of that for later. Because today is Sunday. And while we still do chores, we mostly rest and rejoice in the day that the Lord has made!

Saturday, October 24, 2015


"For Christ's love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who did for them all and was raised again." 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

To compel is to move. To draw in. Not unwillingly. His love is so great and so deep and so high all at once that you can't but help but love Him back. When you feel his love, His eternal grace, you can't help but be convinced that He really die for you. That if you were the only person on planet Earth He still would have gone to that cross and died. A living sacrifice. For you. For love.

When the verse says, "Therefore all died" that means that we have died to our sin, our pasts, our regrets, our guilt. All gone. All forgiven with a few words of acquiescence: "Forgive me. I believe you died to set me free!"

He died for every single person who ever lived and who ever will be born. He died once. For all. And here's the beauty of it - He died so that we would no longer live for ourselves but to model our lives after His.

Even those who don't believe He is the Son of God still believe He was a "good person". I once went to Synagogue and the Rabbi quoted something Jesus had said even though he had no idea it was Jesus who had said that.

In order to progress from Conceit to Complete we have to die to ourselves. Not easy, believe me I know this.

I prayed this morning that my mind would stay focused on God because I have so many thoughts racing through my head that distract me. I yell too much, especially when I feel overwhelmed by my thoughts. I find it hard to stay organized. I especially struggle with filtering out unnecessary thoughts and tangents I go off on.

Basically, I end up feeling selfish and martyred because in our house "no one understands or listens to me or helps me." Most of which would be avoided if, when I notice my thoughts wandering or getting out of hand, I would just take a moment to pray and ask God to redirect my thoughts. I would then be able to reconsider my words and actions and stay on track. No longer living for myself, but instead living for Jesus and using the gifts He has given me to be an excellent wife and mother.

We, as believers are all equipped with amazing gifts that enable us to live godly lives.

My prayer for you is that you are beginning to feel complete. I challenge you to see if you really are feeling compelled to follow Jesus, or all you just one of the followers in the crowd still questioning if this Jesus thing is worth it?

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Au contraire mes amis

Last night I went to see the movie War Room with a whole bunch of my girlie friends. We laughed and talked and threw popcorn at each other and made little comments to the characters on the screen. I didn't cry but they all did. I wore sweatpants and Thee Farmer's hoodie. Many of them were still in work attire or had dressed up.

One of my friends - who wishes to remain anonymous - said she wished she was "brave enough" to go to the movie in her comfy clothes. Ahem

Girl. I went to a movie to get away from my family for two whole amazing hours. To get lost in a story and eat popcorn and licorice and milk duds and drink a whole pop all by myself without backwash in it. I wanted to sit in that uncomfortable chair as comfortably as I could. And boy did I.

Nobody cares if you show up to a movie on a Tuesday evening at 7 o'clock in your comfy pants. If they do, they're not not your friends anyways.

Become comfortable with who you are. Now, obviously there is a time and a place for dressing nicely. And if you feel more comfortable in regular clothes than be true to you.But please do not go through life being contrary to who God created you to be. 

For me, come as you are has always been my style. Because God wants me to be approachable to the uncomfortable people. You know, those girls who show up to church in their pajama pants who are desperate for Grace. The tattooed and scarred from self inflicted wounds. The ones with piercings and wildly colored hair. Those are the people who God called me to minister to. I couldn't do that if I wore a pant suit, it wouldn't be me, and I wouldn't be accessible to them.

Be confident in this, you are who you are. Wearing tight pants when you don't have to or want to is your own self-consciousness. And we are taking the focus off of that old self. 

"You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body." Ephesians 4:22-25
This means:
  • you get rid of the way you were, hiding behind a facade
  • your mind has been renewed, regenerated and changed
  • you are a whole new you
  • so don't pretend to be what you are not, be true and speak truth to your "neighbor" - that is, the people around you.
Don't misrepresent. Show up. Be you. And love. 

P.S. If you like to dress up then by all means do it! I'm not judging. My point is you shouldn't be afraid to wear comfy pants if that's what you want to do ;) 

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

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For those who doubt...convincing

For those of you still may be doubting a little...I didn't make any of this up. You can read it for yourself.
I know that some think "Why do you think YOUR way is the only way to Heaven?"
It's not my way - it's Thee Way.
Back in the day, Jesus' followers were called The Way.
Jesus himself said, "I am The Way, The Truth and The Life, no one can come to the Father except through me." It's right there in the book of John, chapter 14, verse 6.

The Way

That means I am asking you to believe two things:
  1. that the Bible is real
  2. that Jesus paid the price.
I can hear you now, "Paid the price for what? I am not some evil being. I'm a good person. I don't need religion to make me feel guilty. I don't need saving."
I am asking you to take the focus off of yourself for just a moment and focus on Eternity. Do you believe in life after death? Do you believe in Heaven? What about Hell? Do you believe that Satan is real? Was Jesus just some nice guy or is He really the Son of God?
Maybe you don't even want to think about it and that's ok. That's what I love about God. It's our choice. But know this, you are chosen by Him. He knows your name. He set your steps in place the same time He made the sun and the stars. He's calling. Knocking. Waiting.

Monday, October 19, 2015


When we start to succeed at taking the focus off of ourselves, then we often find a need to connect with others. You will even discover that you have a lot more time on your more checking your Facebook status every fifteen minutes to see how many "likes" you've gotten. Ahem..
I gave up Facebook for forty days. I don't share that to brag but to let you know initially how hard it was. I have been addicted to many things in my lifetime and that one just about had me beat. By week two, I was so sick of people asking, "Didn't you see that on Facebook?" And then I discovered that I missed hearing about a dear friend who had passed away and that about broke me. By week four I hardly missed it at all. Suddenly, my house was cleaner. My kids had all of my attention. I had connected - or rather reconnected- with my real life.
Social media has it's place! I love me some Pinterest. The interweb is an amazing tool - but it does not replace human interaction.
God created us to be social beings. To live in communion with each other.
Been to a restaurant lately? What do you see? People talking animatedly to each other? Nope. Looking down at their phones. One of these days, I'm gonna stand right up in the booth and yell, "What in the blazes is wrong with you people?!?!" (You can come visit me on the fifth floor after that.)
If we are made in God's image and God made woman to be a partner to man and to supernaturally connect through sex in marriage
 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother
and is united to his wife,
and they become one flesh."
Genesis 2:24
then what happens when we disconnect from reality? When we push God away or try to file Him in a glass case labeled "break in case of emergency"? When we sit at the table at dinner time and stare at our screen - scrolling though statuses...what does that have to do with right here, right now?
Let's take a little pop quiz here. Answer honestly. Examine your heart and face the real truth.
  1. Have you ever yelled at your babies when you were trying to type a reply on Facebook?
  2. Have you ever looked at the time and realized that you just spent over and hour on your phone and now it's bedtime and they haven't had baths and there are no clean clothes and no one gets a story read and homework hasn't been touched?
  3. Have you ever gotten jealous or angry at a post?   
Let me just confess that I can answer "yes" to each of these questions.
Jesus tells us that whenever two or three are gathered in His Name there He is also. (Matthew 18:20)
This "In My Name" literally translates "into my name" - as in connecting and yearning for union.
Are you yearning to connect with your spouse? Are you desperate for a real friend? Do you want to be a better parent?
I promise you this. Take the focus off yourself for one day. Just one day. Purposefully connect with someone. Make a phone call. Invite someone to coffee. Read a book to your babies. Sit on the bathroom floor while they are taking their baths and play with them again. You can't do that if you have a phone or tablet in your hands. Turn off the TV. Find out what quiet feels like again.
Here is how my life has changed now that I have reconnected with real-live people:
  • I have a best friend who calls me nearly every single morning. We pray together, praise together and encourage each other.
  • I have another best friend who I can call anytime and share what's on my heart and get honest feedback. And giggle. Giggling is good for the soul.
  • I use over 1,400 minutes on my phone each month because I call and don't text as much.
  • I know who my children's friends are. I know that they had a rough time in class or how much they like a teacher or friend.
  • I don't just say, "I'm praying for you." I stop right there and pray.
  • I can tell right away when I have disengaged from reality and retreated to friend stalking on FB. I get irritable and nobody wants to be around me. Don't be that girl.
Don't you long for this too? You weren't made to be alone, my friend. Be brave. Step out in boldness and take back your life. Thee Life that God has given you. Enjoy it.

Sunday, October 18, 2015


"Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion,  then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.  Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility consider others above yourselves,  not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God
 something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!"
And then there are verses 12 and 13:
"Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, or it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose."
Look at all of those words we have gone over in the last 18 days! When we take the focus off of ourselves:
  • Leave me alone I'm busy
  • Why doesn't anything ever go my way?
  • Why can't you...?for me?
  • I wish...
And consider others above us - that verse says to pay attention to the needs of others and not your own. This is totally contrary to the thinking of the world we live in today!
It's considered old-fashioned and archaic to submit to your husband. Many of my friends don't understand why I don't go out much. It's because I personally choose to maintain the commitment I made to my children when I became their mother: putting their needs before mine. For me, I did it the opposite with our oldest, and it didn't work so well. I put every need of mine before his. Now 23 years later, I have learned with child number five that I need to give mothering my all.
Some ask, what about time for you? They know that when I shut the door that they can only come and get me if the house is on fire! They are learning to respect my need for privacy.
Considering others above yourself is so much more than that though! If I took you to a different neighborhood and showed you the truly poor, and the ones who choose to remain in poverty, would you look at them and only see filth or would you look at them with eyes of compassion?
When someone walks in the door of your church in sweatpants and ratty hair do you approach them with love and ask to show them around? or do you quickly look away?
Paul asks his church family to make his joy complete by being like-minded. One mind, one Spirit, one faith.
Consider this: Jesus, humbled himself.
He took on the form of a totally helpless baby. He could have came to Earth in a blaze of Glory. He could have just taken over and destroyed all evil. But He chose to come and grow up and feel and serve and reach out and then die. Jesus, the Son of God, chose to die for you! Think about that for a second.
He asked His Father to take what He had to do away from Him because I believe He knew that His death would be meaningless to so many. Look at all of those who are still mocking Him today. He saw that coming. And yet, He picked up that Cross and carried it up that hill.
He hung and suffered tremendous physical pain and even worse mental anguish. Knowing full well that He was giving all of us a choice and some would reject His sacrifice.
His own mother at His feet. Some of His best friends witnessing His dying. And those who yelled, "If you are truly God's Son come down!" And then His own Father had to look away and the sky went dark because every.single.sin ever committed was laid upon Him. He, Thee One who knew no sin had, to carry that burden.
I'm Praying for you
Take a deep breath and let it sink in. I know this is a lot.
Jesus loves you. It's the kind of love you can never imagine until you feel it for yourself. There is no shame with His love. There is nothing you have to do to earn it. He offered it up as a sacrifice when He chose to die for you! He considered you above His own self and human life.
Will you accept that love? Will you offer up praise? Can you feel that tug on your heart? That's Jesus waiting for you to ask Him in.
Once you become His, the words that Paul wrote in the above Scripture will make so much more sense. You will know why some choose to live in humility. To serve and not judge. To pursue those they used to consider lesser than themselves and raise those very same people up.
Continue to work out your salvation - but don't wait too long. God has your days all planned out. You can have peace right here, right now. Why don't you ask Him to come in?
I'm praying for YOU.

Saturday, October 17, 2015


as in words. Body language. Writing. Tweeting. Whispers. Gossip. A simple wordless touch of reassurance.
There are so many ways we try to communicate what we mean. Some fail miserably. Some talk too much,or make a mountain out of a mole hill.
My words are at times terrible, childish curses. They bring instant shame and I scream in my head, "How can you be a Christ-follower and say those things?!" And I cry out to God, "What is inside me that makes me talk this way?"
Enter "words" into the search bar of and 406 entries will pop up.

Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Proverbs 16:24
May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.
Psalm 19:14
My mouth will speak words of wisdom; the meditation of my heart will give you understanding. Psalm 49:3
you have been trapped by what you said, ensnared by the words of your mouth.
Proverbs 6:2
Gossip is poop. You eat the words and they go to your parts:
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.
Proverbs 18:8
This is one I had not read before and it touched home and made me giggle at the same time:
Do not revile the king even in your thoughts, or curse the rich in your bedroom, because a bird in the sky may carry your words, and a bird on the wing may report what you say.
Ecclesiastes 10:20

You just never know who might be listening to your words, my friend.
What we communicate to those around us, especially those who are non-believers who are just waiting for us to slip up, is a reflection of Christ.
Think about this today: Are my words building souls up or tearing others down? Is my speech peaceful and encouraging? Am I obnoxious? Do I stick around and join in when others talk crudely or start to gossip?
Examine your words. Pick something from Thee Word to meditate on. Put it on a post-it and stick it on your mirror. Memorize it and keep it in your heart.
May your words be pleasing in His sight and bring glory to Him. May they build your husband up. May they praise God and give Him thanksgiving. May your words encourage your children and assure them they are loved. May you speak words of kindness and not gossip.
Be encouraged by these words and do not lose hope. The journey from Conceit to Complete is not over yet!

Thursday, October 15, 2015


Our lives are all about convenience.
We don't like to wait in line. Walmart has self-check out now. You can use an app to order your Taco Bell ahead of time.
Hurry up and wait. I always laugh when someone goes speeding past me and when we get to the stop sign at the end of the road there they sit with me grinning right behind them.
What are you missing out on in the rush of life? Are you spending quality time with Jesus every day?
I am so lacking in this area. I confess I spend more time shopping for just the right highlighter and pens. Thee perfect journal. Setting up my War Room. My Bible? All tabbed out. My faith? Huge. My actions, great. But the fuel is running on E. I feel so spiritually empty because I don't have the self control to manage my own time.
We have every convenience available to us. Laundry. Dishes. Cars. Computers. Google. Microwaves. Keurigs. Indoor plumbing. And yet, we are busier than any other generation. Busy doing what? Rushing to the next Bible study. Chauffeuring kids to soccer games. Coffee turned gossip I mean prayer requests with friends.
We stay up late on Pinterest. Wishing away and drooling over picture perfect living rooms. We get up already rushed and worried. Most days, my feet hit the floor and I don't even give one thought about God. I just rush.
You, too?
Do you get by with just the Verse of The Day sent to your inbox? Are you so busy serving at church that you never hear the sermon?
No, it may not seem like it can be convenient to spend time with Jesus...but it is a necessity of life. As much as you need water and air and food and sunlight, even more so, YOU NEED YOU SOME JESUS. Every day.
Take the focus off the busy-ness of your life. Stop looking for the quick fix.
Little by little, day by day, if you will take Thee Time to seek Him your life will change radically.
There are people dying for Jesus across the seas. Dying because they follow Him. It's not convenient for them to be Believers. But they choose to anyways.

Overhearing what they said, Jesus told him, “Don’t be afraid; just believe.” Mark 5:36

Jesus heard people doubting that a little girl could be raised from the dead. I am telling you my friend, that just as he raised that little girl right up from the dead He can raise you from the death of this life! Don't be afraid.
You don't have to be afraid that there won't be enough time. Just step out in faith. There is no perfect journal. No accessory that can make you closer to Him. All you need is a quiet place, your Bible, a pen and a piece of paper. (The pen and paper are so you can write down anything that distracts you. You can tend to it later. This is YOUR time with Jesus.)

But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen.
Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:6
Don't be afraid. Just believe. Turn to a favorite Psalm. Read a chapter of Proverbs every day. Conveniently there are 31. ;) Read the adventures of the Apostles and Paul in the book of Acts. Read the Lord's Prayer and think about how you can make it personal to pray. Just read. Enjoy the silence. Reflect. Worship.
Maybe you have never prayed before. Don't be afraid. Close your eyes and fold your hands if you need to. Start by telling Him how sorry you are for being so self-centered. For trying to do things your way. Tell Him the ways you have messed things up. Mistakes you have made. We call that sin and if you confess it to Him I promise He will forgive you. Ask Him to take away the guilt and the shame. Ask Him to take over every area of your life. Ask Him to show you the way. Tell Him you need Him. Ask Him to show you areas of your life that need to be changed or better managed. Then tell Him that you plan on meeting with Him, here in this place, every day.
We're getting there, girl. From conceit to complete. What a journey.
He is waiting for you. Don't you dare be afraid.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015


I tried to start writing this post several times yesterday. But it was just one of those days. Everything was out of sorts. Thee Farm House was (and mostly still is) a complete disaster.

Thee day started off with me volunteering in the toddler room at our local MOPS. When I say toddler I mean 12-24 months. All 17 of them. So here I am in my babysitting clothes because I know it will be a hot, sweaty mess. All of the 20-something mommies come in and are all dressed up in their fancy pants. I'm not 20 something. Just in case you didn't know that.

I compare my child-rearing techniques to the ones their parents may or may not be using. I compare their fancy Prada diaper bags to my John Deere one. Their high heels to my flip flops. Their youth to my middle age.

And I begin for a moment to slip back into that dissatisfaction with my life. And that's a dangerous place to go.

I forget that I was once 20-something. Dressed all fancy. Swinging my fancy diaper bag. I only had one child then. I forget that I was so desperate to have some me time like these young mamas are.

When I compare myself to wordly things I will fail and end up feeling miserable. Every time. When I want what others have that means I'm coveting and that's a sin.

Dare I compare myself to Thee One who died for me? Thee One who says I must become more like Him and less like the world?

What would I gain if Jesus was my measuring stick? He is Thee Way, Thee Truth, Thee Life.

 Prada does not give life or peace. High heels give me bunions. I can walk and serve just fine in my flip flops. (Please do not think I am going off on girls that are Fancy. I like Fancy.) Wanting a new whatever just makes me dissatisfied with Thee Blessings that are poured out before me.

What blessings are we missing when we constantly look at everyone else and not at our own reality. Sure it's taking focus off of ourselves which we are trying to learn to do, but it is so unhealthy. It steals our lives when we fall into Thee Comparison Trap.

Count your blessings,
Name them one by one.
Count your blessings,
See what God has done.
Who are what are you comparing yourself to? Moms who you think are perfect? Her husband that seems to do and care so much more than yours does? The new house your friend is building? Her kids that were potty trained at 2 and yours is almost 4?
Today, take an honest look at your life. Count five blessings. If you see that she has dinner on the table every night and you seem to eat Mac and Don's Supper Club so much that the drive thru lady recognizes your voice then you best be googling some crock pot recipes. If you want to lose weight and be able to wear skinny jeans then start walking every day. If you want faith like hers then you better start reading your Bible and getting on your knees. Action not comparison.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,
Read the whole chapter of Ephesians 3:14-20 today - you will be so blessed. I promise.