Thee Farm Wife

Thee Farm Wife

Monday, December 30, 2013


if this is your first time visiting Down on the Farm! Consider yourself one of the lucky ones if you received a Christmas card from us..because I stopped at "M" (I think) and will try and finish in the next few days...otherwise, Happy New Year!

We have been battling influenza in the month of December. I have gone through gallons of bleach and cans of Lysol like no other. It was 40 degrees this past week and I opened windows. Washed all of the bedding. And wouldn't you know it, I finally caught it after everyone was on the mend. 

It is now 7 below zero and snowing. The snow is pretty if you don't have to go anywhere. Which I don't. Because The Farmer went to town yesterday and got us milk and Mt. Dew and Pepsi. That's stocking up :) I am making bread today. The only thing we are lacking is cheese. I always freak out when there's no cheese. Not even a slice of American to be found. No cheese topped casseroles. No tacos. No grilled cheese. It's almost an emergency. Only not. Because I always overreact. 

I always try and explain that I live like the pioneer women of old. With electricity. And internet. Ok, and a bread machine and washer and dryer and hair dryer and refrigerator and lights. Ok, I live in the spirit of the pioneer women of old. I am the direct descendant of Marjorie Murphy. She left the East Coast on her own and settled in South Dakota on a claim. By herself. A woman. Pioneer women did not go to town everyday. Or have play dates. Some home schooled. That means children in the house. All. The. Time. They raised the food for their family. Canned and preserved and baked and cured. They were mother, doctor, teacher, referee. And they didn't have a big ole house like I am blessed with. My point is, I don't need to go to town everyday. I like to write real letters to friends. Some days, I get to bed at 11 and realize there were 100 other things I could still be doing. And then it's back up at 6 and start all over again. It honestly doesn't bother me that I don't have Girls Night Out. Or go to the mall. I am just as content with a long phone call to a real live friend. I hate Facebook. Really. I do. It's an excuse to not connect. To stalk. To say "praying" on someone's status without following through. 

A pioneer woman has her man around her. All. The. Time. Do you know all that that entails? That takes true love and dedication. And a whole scoop of humor. Because if you stop laughing you will start nagging. And that never gets me anywhere. The Farmer will pretend he can't hear me in a heartbeat if the nagging starts. So, here's the secret, I cook him up some good food. Fried in a skillet. Meat. Potatoes. Something good for his soul. And then I strike! Works every.single.time.

In conclusion...HAHAHAHAHA...what I really want to say is that it's okay to embrace womanhood. Being a mom. A wife. A teacher. A friend. Your way. Life is not an ongoing Facebook post. It is not pinnable on Pinterest. Life is you. Living. Loving yourself. It's messy. There's poop. Puke. Boogers. Fighting. But there are also sweet kisses goodnight. Sticky cheeks. Piles of dirt to play in. The first smile of the morning.

That's how I choose to live. How about you?

Sunday, December 22, 2013

It's going to be a White Christmas!

We were supposed to have a big storm but so far just a few inches and now lots of sunshine and
world so white and bright and beautiful. But it's too cold to go out and take pictures. That and the fact that I am snuggled up in my office, listening to worship music on Youtube and drinking homemade mocha latte.

2 packets powdered milk
1 cup instant coffee crystals
2 cups powdered coffee creamer
1 tsp nutmeg (optional)
Half a mason jar of sugar (don't even ask)
2 cups Nesquick

Mix it all in a big container. Add 3-4 TBS to 10 oz of boiling water. Stir and enjoy! If it doesn't taste sweet enough - add more sugar - or more chocolate - or coffee - just adjust it to what you like!

Next time I am going to add powdered French Vanilla Creamer.

Now, I know this probably has like a billion calories, but I don't care, because it makes me feel all warm and happy and that's all that matters :)

A peek inside our living room

Different seasons of our willow tree

"Showgirls and bling, it's a Cattle Chick Thing!"
Weigh-ins for fair were yesterday.
See the messy kitchen? That's how I roll. So tired of seeing "perfect" homes and pics on Pinterest and blogs. Let's be real here. Life is messy. Get over it and stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Now, if you really need help because your home is a stinky mess, that's different. I highly recommend Go there. Like now.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Trust and Obey

My Aunt Lorena loved this song. Thinking of her today - and the truth in this song...we just have to trust and obey because there is no other way!

Monday, December 16, 2013

A few joyful moments

K-K-K-Katie is c-c-c-cold! This girl is my fav, even though she tries to head butt me every time I get in her face!

"I'm digging!" 

Annual Date Night for The Farmer and me

Using my new camera to capture the beauty of our farm. 

And the manure...that piece of equipment is what we call the "turd hearse"!
Cody and John working together.

My favorite camera angle. My favorite penguin, too.

Manure, it's part of life. You have to deal with it eventually. You know. Scoop it up and fling it. Try it.
 Get rid of all of the sludge that holds you back and prevents you from growing. Use it as fertilizer. Trust me.
Once the stink goes away, life is much better my friend!

Sunday, December 15, 2013

How can one even begin to express in words the joy that is contained in one's heart? J.o.y. Buried beneath the pain and the suffering and the loneliness. Joy. Joyful hope for tomorrow. Joy in the truth that I am saved and sanctified and set aside. For a purpose. Joy roaring up out of the depths of my soul. And I share it with you. Pure and simple joy. Whether you are in the midst of difficult circumstances. Loss of a job. A loved one. A wayward child. Joy. Gratefulness. Thanksgiving and praise. Open your eyes. Open your heart and begin searching for that which was lost. When bitterness and grief and rage stole your joy. When it slipped out of your grasp and you gave in to the darkness. Open your eyes and look for that little flicker of light. See the gift in the moment and seize it. Grab hold of the gift and see it for what it is. Joy. Joy in all things. A child's laugh. Bells ringing. Snow gently falling. The first robin of spring. An unexpected visit from an old friend. Rain that finally comes. Cookie crumbs on the table. See the joy. Expect the joy. Be grateful for all He has done. When something becomes a burden think back to when you prayed for that very thing and remember the initial joy. The birth of your child. Your wedding day. A home of your own. Take back the joy and live.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Winter blahs

it's not even technically winter yet and I already have it...the blahs. The "I do not want to go anywhere or get dressed or eat anything besides chocolate" blahs. I am not depressed. I am starved for sunshine and warmth. So, I light candles that smell like warm cinnamon vanilla, I bake cookies, I curl up in a nice snuggly blanket...and I wait for spring.

I lovingly tend to my houseplants. My whatchamacallits are blooming. My indoor rose bush is setting new leaves. There IS life in winter. And soon, and very soon, we celebrate the birth of our Savior. Why just one day? Why dont we celebrate His coming every day of the year? His coming is so very dear to all of us. His going we don't want to talk about so much. 

Hope. That is what I need a good dose of. Hope that He is coming again. In an even more glorious way then He did on that one bright morning 2,000 years ago.

Monday, December 9, 2013

Sick day...again

Zoie Lee is here this week. Which makes me ecstatic. Because she is so stinking cute. And she talks ghetto like me and it makes Uncle Farmer all flustered. "We don't say ain't." And I reply, "Where we come from we do." And Zoie and I giggle. 

Jaiden has been running a fever. 103 last night. Poor thing. She is so quiet. Which may be a blessing :) that girl can certainly talk your ear off. She wants chicken noodle soup. With the long noodles. In a coffee cup. 

We received an inch or so of snow. The world is frosty and white. Unmarked. Until the dogs run all over and ruin it.  

And now AJ is up and running. 

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

My girls

Abby, Jaima and Jaiden in my messy kitchen, making cookies and memories...

See, I've learned that it doesn't matter if you wait to do the dishes so you can play with your kids or read them a story, eventually they have to be washed, and will get done, but you can never get back that moment of togetherness. Of course, we could do the dishes together, but I am of the strong opinion that that is absolutely no fun at all.

And, I could have cropped and photoshopped this picture, but that wouldn't be keeping it real. So many times in blogland and Pinterest you see perfect pictures. Do you really believe that their counters stay clean ALL.THE.TIME? Or that their living rooms are so perfectly decorated and organized? Those are staged photos and they make us as women and moms feel like we don't have it all together. Well, girlie, I got news for you, you ain't perfect and you never will be this side of Heaven, so quit trying. Relax. Have a cup of tea. And enjoy life.

Or take a half hour and watch an amazing video from Billy Graham. There are three videos and I had forgotten how powerful Dr. Graham's messages are. They are not full of Christian babble or judgment - they are uplifting and life changing. Let me know what you think.

Blessings to you on this foggy,
Eeyore day. 

Friday, November 22, 2013

So I really have no idea what I am doing with this amazing new camera - but I sure am having fun trying to capture life's little moments. Like the random photos here...I bought fresh flowers for myself to add a little sunshine to my life...and images from my kitchen, the heart of our home...and AJ resting...and our fireplace, my absolute favorite spot in the whole house...and all of the colors of fall...captured. Along with my extra cheesy, extra sloppy lasagna.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

A time to rest

The poor Farmer has gotten himself exhausted. Not just the "I need a nap" kind of exhausted. But the "I worked myself half to death" exhausted. He has been working both the ammo factory and in the fields and it caught up with him. Sent him to bed and haven't heard a peep out of him. Just a sec, I better go check and make sure he's ok!!!


I spent the day clearing off my kitchen counters. I get so sick of seeing the clutter. Plus, I got a new Kitchen Aid mixer and I needed to make room for it. (Gotta love the Bayer points system for farmers. That means the Farm Wife can order anything she wants. For freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!)

So, if you know me, I am NOT a baker. I set out to make a cake with my new mixer. From a box. And a miracle happened. It baked just right and was fluffy. But it still tasted like a made-from-a-box cake. However, cake is cake. And it is chocolate. With frosting-from-a-can. My mission? Learn to bake from scratch. Someday. For now, I plan on making bread dough with my mixer. And hope to use my Thirty-One commission checks to buy a pasta maker attachment thingie.

I am really enjoying selling Thirty-One. Most of my business is done online. Because I hate parties. Well, really, I hate asking my friends to host parties. So I set it up online and you can order whenever, whatever you want. And if you want to see what something looks like or how to use it you can come to the house. Because I now literally almost have every product. Every. Single. One. We use them for everything. This has been my year to get my butt in gear and get organized. We have totes for the car. Totes for makeup and brushes. Laundry. Toilet paper. Toys. Movies. All sorted and organized.

Now, I hope to have time to write more. I am working on a book. And I want to blog to inspire. Pretty soon I will post about organizing, books I am reading, and things that inspire me.

Pictures will soon accompany my posts more often. I got this fancy schmancy SLR camera. I am going to take a class. I see and feel things in pictures and can't wait to share my view of the world with you.

Until then,

p.s. you can follow me on Twitter @farmwife4life and on Pinterest, too. Just look my name up. Because right now I have no idea how to link to anything. But I am learning. Because I have more time. Because I got organized.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

A book review

If you are looking for a great, down-to-earth devotional, this is THEE ONE! I love learning about the Amish and their simple lifestyle. Using this devotional allows me to take a moment to slow down each morning and not only spend time in the Word, but also catch a glimpse of Amish life and learn some Amish wisdom. Tricia Goyer is a well-respected Christian author and I just love her writing style.


The One Year® Book of Amish Peace

In our instantly connected world, it’s surprisingly easy to lose our connection to God. This devotional taps Amish wisdom in order to help us draw closer to God and hear his voice. In The One Year® Book of Amish Peace, you’ll get a daily taste of Amish values and wisdom. Tricia Goyer shares her fascination with the Amish in a way that will inspire and encourage believers to carve out more time in each day to listen to God and experience his presence. This daily devotional contains interesting facts about the Amish, recipes, and information about the way the Amish handle money, rear their children, and center their lives on faith in God. You’ll be inspired to slow down and find ways to simplify so that you, too, can experience God in the ordinary.
Links to the book:
Here is a link to a sample of the book!

*I received a free copy of this book for publishing this review, just so you know.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

I can post from my email now! Look out world! Here comes the crazy farm wife!

Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android

Beauty in the unexpected

AJ and I went to the field so he could ride with Cody and chop stalks. I took a picture of the corn not even realizing how beautiful the clouds were. I was focusing on the ground and GOD revealed a beautiful sky. How many times do we stare down when we should be looking UP?

That's your encouragement for today. Look up. Raise your hands to the One who adores you. The One who will reveal hidden beauty to you.

Happy Sunday.

Monday, October 14, 2013

The truth about being a farmer's wife

True story.

Sometimes you plant a garden and he accidentally kills it
with 2-4D because he "didn't think it would drift."

And then you see him like this and it doesn't matter at all that
you can't get a new (insert whatever here) because he has to get a new skid loader.

That's the truth about being a farm wife. There are days when you have to go it alone. There are times when you just find time to take a hot bubble bath and the phone rings. "It's time to switch fields and we need a ride." There are times when cattle die and crops fail and tornadoes rip out the grain leg (see my very first post). Every day is in God's hands when you farm. Rain. Not enough. Too much. Grain prices. Media scares about mad cow disease. Beef is good for you. Beef will kill you. No Farm Bill. Waiting to hear the tractor pull into the yard after a long night of harvest.
And it's all worth it, this life we choose to live. We fight for it. Some even die for it. And we farm wives, we stand behind our farmers. We pray for their safety. We pray they get enough rest. We pray that they will make sound financial decisions. We pray.
And sometimes, we really do scream, "Help me, Jesus!" and we make it through another day, because the Farmer says, "We'll get through it."

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Thirty One, Aldi's and Harvest

What a beautiful day! The guys started harvesting this week. Slow but sure. Yields are great so far and that is encouraging. The only downfall is Aiden's breathing problems. The dust in the air irritates his lungs so he is back on breathing treatments and meds. I let him go out in the morning to play and get some fresh air before all of the dust starts flying.
Poor Guy, he wants to ride in the combine so bad but can't because of the dust.
Went to Aldi's in CF yesterday. They redid the whole store and it is amazing! Lots to choose from and all updated. It was a fun trip with Aiden. I got a lot for a little. And that feels good, to be able to feed my family and stick to a budget.
Here's my receipt. And a little fall d├ęcor.

Last but not least, I am trying a new venture, selling Thirty One bags. You can visit my website at

I believe in the life of the Proverbs 31 woman. She looks well to the ways of her home! If you need organizing tips and ideas on how to use these great products let me know. I will be happy to show you how
 I have transformed my home using Thirty One!

I have no idea why this switched fonts on me...have a blessed day my friend!


Thursday, October 3, 2013

Happy Fall, Ya'all

Here it is October already. We haven't even begun to harvest our crop and it feels weird that nothing is happening here on the farm! But we wait patiently for equipment to be fixed and fine tuned, and we wait for the corn to get just a little drier.

The Farmer has taken an off farm job. And Cody has moved to CF.(Don't worry we are still farming! Cody comes everyday to do chores and work.) So, most days I am living like a pioneer woman and hanging out in my kitchen and playing with AJ and working on basic schooling with him. And I am oh so content!

I have made apple butter in the crockpot and even baked my first homemade apple pie! I put up some tomato juice in different flavors to cook with this winter. I can add paste or tomatoes to it and make chili, spaghetti or pizza. I also made salsa! This former hood rat really has been transformed to Farm Queen! (fyi "hood rat" is a term we used for kids who ran around in the neighborhood causing trouble and dressing like a gangster haha)

I need to start using my camera again and not just my phone to take pictures. Maybe today will be the day AJ and I go outside and capture fall for ya'all.

Be blessed.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Perfect day for blogging

Fall has got to be here. Cooler temps. Rain. The sound of rain on the roof is something I will never take for granted again. We have had too many dry months the past two years. The Farmer has spent too much time checking the weather and the markets and worrying. Praying you can never get too much of, and we both have done a lot of that.

I have to admit Pinterest has stolen much of my attention. And a group on Facebook called Planner Addicts. I pick a project from Pinterest to complete each day. Sometimes it's organizing. Some days decorating. And maybe a recipe or cleaning tip or two. Try it. You'll like it.

As far as the planner stuff. I don't think I could make it without my FlyLady calendar or my hot pink Franklin Covey planner with my Graceworks planner pages! I got the planner for three bucks at the local thrift store. They retail for almost a hundred! I do love a bargain. And I do love showing up on time :)

The Farmer has been working off the farm. Cody has been taking care of the cattle. We are both so proud of him for stepping up to the plate. He gets an income and we get peace of mind! He is in his senior year of college finishing up his Ag Business Management degree. He has studied animal nutrition, GPS and field mapping. He wants to work for his uncle's seed company when he graduates. And hopefully for us, too, otherwise I am gonna have to learn to drive a tractor. I have always avoided that because a farm wife can't know everything!

It feels good to be inspired and to write again. It only happened today because AJ is sleeping in :)

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Back from break...

There's a reason why I stopped blogging. A sad one. My dear Aunt Kay, who was my inspiration for writing, passed away and I just didn't feel like writing anymore. But I am feeling the need to share again. One, because I really am sick of Facebook. Two, I still want a way to preserve our way of life for our family and friends.

We went to the Cattleman's Banquet Sunday, and our local newspaper editor was there. We were talking, and looking at all of the people gathered there. I said, "To anyone else this may look hokey, but to us, this is important. We gather together to celebrate our way of life. The sacrifices that we make. This means something to these people."

I embrace my life. I love staying home. Not so I don't have to have a job in town. (I hardly remember what that was like anymore.) I stay home so I don't miss a second of my kids lives. I stay home so I can be the biggest influence in their lives. I stay home because my husband wants me to. I stay home because being a farmer's wife is my princess dream come true. If I had listened to myself, I would be stuck in an office, complaining about my life and my job and my kids and my hot mess. Am I denying myself anything? Maybe sleep. But it is well with my soul. Right here. At home. Down on the farm.