Thursday, December 27, 2012
For more on Hope For The Weary Mom (I am guessing that's you, too) I encourage you to visit www.hopeforthewearymom.com Not only has this book changed my life, but I am on a team that has reviewed their book and promised to share this message with as many other moms as I can! There is hope...it can be found One place. I invite you to make the discovery for yourself, my friend!
“Right now, I have nothing to give. Nothing. Nada. I’m tired and don’t feel good and honestly, I want a break from everything. It’s not that I want to leave my family, trade them in, or get new ones. I WANT to be with them. I just want a break from hard hearts, discipline, correction. I want their hearts changed and I can’t do it myself. Sometimes, the knowledge of this makes me feel hopeless and helpless.” from Hope for the Weary Mom
See, there are other mommies, just like you and me, who are keeping it real and admitting they are imperfect. So take off your fake church smile and put on your big girl panties and find out how to live in the Truth girlie. No more "fake it til you make it" attitude. Go! Before your kids wake up!
p.s. The first chapter is free! www.hopeforthewearymom.com
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Then I tuck them in bed and I take a deep breath, and another, and sometimes even another. And I ask God for strength for another day.
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
p.s. That's Abby with Cody on the top right. Aren't they cute?
We now have a blizzard warning until Thursday. I went to the store yesterday and got more milk...came home and we had four gallons total. I guess we can always make ice cream.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Cody decided to go to Walmart at 8pm because he thinks it's hilarious watching all of those people trying to get a good deal. He told me I couldn't go. He knows I would probably punch someone in the face. Seriously. I hate crowds.
Spent the day with my parents. Ate way too much. We got a call from our neighbor telling us the power was out. Luckily, it's back on now, because I needed to microwave my leftovers.
SO much to be thankful for, even these screaming and fighting kiddos. My family is healthy. The drought didn't destroy us. We have great friends. Plenty to eat. A great big roof over our heads.
Will you consider sponsoring a child at www.compassion.com this year? It's about $38 a month...and you will make a lifetime impact on a child who is a world away, giving hope, developing a friendship, and insuring that they will have enough to eat and clothes to wear!
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
So, I guess I was deeply offended that someone would describe our chaos in a negative way. Our ministry, our life purpose has been to dedicate this home to serving others. We don't pretend to be fancy, even though from the outside this house looks pretty darn fancy. We don't open the door and say, "Oh no! You can't come in, we haven't cleaned yet." We apologize if you don't like dogs, but we have three, you'll just have to yell at them like Julie does :) And, Big Dummy counts as two. ha
My point is, real life is messy. Chaotic at times. But chaos with a purpose. The purpose of raising healthy, well rounded, Jesus-loving kids. When a home centers around raising kids that's what you get. Noise. Mess. Dirty dishes. Dust. Because, frankly, I'd rather read to my kids than dust the shelves. I can dust when they're grown.
Besides, I didn't build this big house. It takes a lot of time to clean it. I've timed it, more than eight hours to clean two rooms. I grew up in a trailer. That lovely home would fit in my kitchen and dining room.
So, YES, we raise our kids in chaos. Heaven forbid if it ever changes. Because we love our kids. They come first. Just yell when you walk in the front door and join in the game of tag. Or fold a basket of my laundry. But join in, don't judge.
(She steps off the soapbox. Exits stage left.)
Saturday, November 3, 2012
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Sunday, October 14, 2012
So content to be done with the harvest and then the rain falls! We have rested the past two days. Cooking lots of good hearty food and spending quality time together. Napping, too!
I've been keeping up with my new pen pals. I love getting real mail and writing back about life and thoughts and feelings. I imagine the surprise on each of their faces when they open their mailboxes.
A new baby joined the neighborhood this week...so sweet. Makes me happy to have all these kids around for mine to grow up with! Cody and the three neighbor boys were the only ones for a long time. Now there are at least 12-15 kids.
So glad the corn is out of the field in front of my window. I can see the highway and horizon again.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Harvest is such a long and lonely time. I have it rather easy because John doesn't run the combine. But I am ready to have his focus back on us and not on the crops. We either make it or break it at this time of year and the stress is enormous on us all.
There is still lots of field work and maure hauling but the end is in sight!
I am busy planning Jaiden's fifth birthday party. She wants a pink cowgirl party. Daddy has orders to clean out the shop and get us some hay bales.
The weather man says there is a 100% chance of rain Saturday. We really need it. The dust is coating everything. The air is heavy and my windows are filthy! Jesus, bring the rain!
Sunday, September 30, 2012
|AJ didn't really like the leaves,|
|He would rather play basketball!|
|This is Daddy's favorite picture...|
A year ago this weekend our precious boy came to live with us. It was a long, hard year, and he is finally ours. But most important of all he is healthy!!! We love you Aiden John.
Friday, September 28, 2012
|So, I have this old lard can that I keep Cascade pacs in for the dishwasher...oh and ignore the drill that The Farmer hasn't taken back to the shop yet. |
2 cups sifted, all purpose flour
4 tsp. baking powder
3/4 tsp. salt
1/4 cup lard
2/3 cup milk
Resift flour with baking soda and salt. Add lard and blend with pastry blender or tow knives until mixture resembles corn meal. Add milk all at once, stirring until ingredients are dampened. Turn dough out on floured board, knead lightly 1/2 minute and pat out to 3/4 inch thickness. Cut out biscuits and bake in 425 degree oven for 12-15 minutes.
I have always had dreams of being a Southern Belle and making hot, flaky biscuits for my family each morning. They turned out pretty well, but I have a tummy ache from the lard :) and grape jelly.
I hate seeing 20something mommies trying to juggle it all. I've been there. Single mom at 19. Going to college. Working three jobs. Living in substandard housing in the ghetto. Life back then was anything but sane. Plus, I was on the ever present quest to find Mr. Right and always ended up with Mr. Totally Wrong. Because there was something missing from the equation. G-O-D.
In my insane journey of putting motherhood on the back burner, my son was the one who sacrificed. We were always running late. Notes never got signed. Library books were lost. Dinner was drive-thru. Yes, Cody survived, even thrived, because I made a choice.
When The Farmer and I met and married, we decided that me staying home would be best for us all. He got three square meals a day and I got to learn how to be a mommy. Because it didn't come easy and there is no manual, because Dr. Spock was a man! After Jaima turned two I decided I was bored and went to town to get a job. Stupid. I spent all the money I made on gas, daycare, junk food and clothes. I think we had less when I worked in town. The house was a mess. My kids were a mess. My marriage was on the back burner. I worked for four years til JaidenIlo came along and I've been home ever since.
I always hear, "I would stay home but we need health insurance." or "You guys farm so it's easier for you." Hogwash. Just go without something or things. Do you need 250 TV channels? A $500/month car payment? I won't list more.
Goodwill is awesome. Aldis for groceries. Buy a side of beef and learn how to cook. Rent movies from the library. Drive a used car. Quit running. I guarantee that you being home during your child's growing up years will be satisfying. They love nothing more than seeing your face when they wake up, or get off of the bus each day. A hot meal, at the table, with the whole family present. Snuggles on a sick day. Collecting leaves together and singing off key.
That's my encouragement to you today. You can't be supermom, she doesn't exist, but you can make the difference in the life of a child.
Read Proverbs 31 or visit www.aboverubies.org (I love this site and magazine!) whatever choice you make, just make sure your giving it your all!
Blessings to you this Friday...
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
It's 9am and I am cooking lunch and supper at the same time! Hamburger casserole, so it's ready to eat whenever the men are. I might make a batch of chili, too, so I won't have to cook tomorrow!
Yesterday the box elder bugs invaded the farm. Today, not a bug in sight. Must be too chilly this morning.
John baled corn stalks yesterday. I love seeing hundreds of them on the horizon. Shows hard work and preparedness.
I have started a letter writing campaign lol. I love to write so email me your mailing address at firstname.lastname@example.org I still believe there's nothing better than getting a letter in the mail. Adds a little joy to all of those bills!
Enjoy your day friends!
Thursday, September 20, 2012
I love to draw and paint. When Jaima was born ten years ago I used to paint almost everyday. Then she started walking and I haven't picked up a brush since. Tonight I started drawing. My paints were still good lol and a fall scene comes to life.
Me time is good for the soul!
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
I quit Facebook. It was an addiction that had to go. I have a lot better things to do with my time. I want real friends, in person friends. I love my friends that live out of state (and welcome! if this is your first blog read) but I found I was being hurt by posts, feeling left out by other certain posts - like when do you stop calling friends and sharing your life and saying "Well, I posted it on Facebook!"
Saturday, September 1, 2012
Saturday, August 25, 2012
|Photo of the Hoosier cabinet in it's original home. It has been in John's family since it's purchase.|
|Baking mixes, until I learn to bake on my own!|
Friday, August 24, 2012
When school starts, I plan our meals two weeks at a time. I write the meals for the week on a paper plate so the whole fam knows what's coming up. I get meat out and can have it thawed in the fridge. And it is so easy to make a list of what is needed for each meal, check the pantry or freezer, and then make my shopping list. When dance lessons and other activities start, I already know what needs to go in the crock pot that morning. No more rushing or ending up eating junk.
We are so blessed to be a family that always eats together. I don't know how other families stay connected without sharing a meal each day.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
My kids can't go outside for long without sneezing and their eyes swelling up. We all take Claritin and I would hate to see what we would be like if we didn't.
In the midst of the pollen, I decided to do a major house clean - adding dust to the mixture. I hardly ever dust - it is a losing battle on the farm.
So, if you drive by the funny farm and wonder why the windows are shut and the AC is still running, now you'll know. Because I sure wish we could have a nice breeze blowing through the house. I miss fresh air!
Most years I pray for an early frost. But not this year with the drought. We need as much frost free time as we can get this year. Some farmers are chopping corn already for silage. We will begin next week. We are fortunate to still have corn growing in some of our fields.
Monday, August 20, 2012
Every morning I head to my table. Before I get dressed or wake the kids. I make my coffee and I meet Him here. I sort out my day, make my lists, read my Proverbs 31 devotion and open my Bible for some much needed Father/ daughter time.
Do you have a quiet spot? It doesn't have to be fancy. I placed mine in front if the window so I can see the beauty of our farm. I have pens, my fav books, my planner/household notebook and occasional clutter :) My laptop is on an antique high chair at my side. It is thee perfect place for me.
Even more incredible is that when my precious babies wake up, they know where to find me, at my table, meeting with The King.
Lately, I've been trying to win and iPad or other such device, since The Farmer has overtaken MY iPad. Here's a link to a giveaway. It's totally ligit. I promise. Have a great day!
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Woke up to 48 degrees outside! Opened all of the windows. Will regret the pollen and dust later, right now it is so nice to hear the birds. AJ got to go outside and play, his fav thing to do! It was s o nice to not have to worry about his asthma or the heat for once. We even went for a ride on the Ranger to see the cows.
There is a little more rain in the forecast which will be great for the beans. And my hay fever. Ugg this is the worst I have been in over 20 years. Can't wait for the frost, but we are praying for a late one, so that the crops have more time to mature. It's all in God's hands:
"So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is significant, but God, who keeps everything growing, is the one who matters." 1 Corinthians 3:7 ISV
I bought John a painting of this verse...reminds us of why we chose this way of life. You have to choose it for sure, because there is really nothing we can control. Not disease. Not wind. Surely not rain. We just raise our hands to Heaven and say, "Your will be done."
Monday, August 6, 2012
We still pray for rain. I wish we didn't constantly check the radar...or experience extreme disappointment when the clouds build up, we smell the rain, but it doesn't fall on our land. But yet, we are so blessed. We have more than enough. Jehovah-Jireh. The LORD provides.
The Farmer got up at 6 this morning and when I woke up he was sitting at the computer typing up a Word document. I inwardly giggled as he pecked at the keys. He was tabbing and I could have told him about the handy dandy shortcuts at the top of the screen, but I let him be. And then, he tries to print. And tries again. Only it's not his fault. Somehow the driver for the printer has been deleted. Probably by a two foot midget named AJ. I have spent the last half hour downloading and fixing. Not how I pictured my morning.
Roll with the punches. That should be the motto for JC Farms. That and the Farmer's famous words, "We'll get through it." And he's always right. Dangit.
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
I collect old copies of Farm Wife magazine and I came across these words of wisdom...
Mom's Advice - Getting Along on the Family Farm
by Helen Howe of Stratford, CA
"Ten Commandments for the Senior Farm Wife" for moms who are welcoming a new daughter-in-law to the family farm
1. Understand the words "Generation Gap".
2. Make sure she has her own home.
3. Stay out of her house.
4. Give her privacy - in all things.
5. Give her freedom - to establish her own place.
6. Always be ready to help - when asked.
7. Never criticize.
8. Keep the communication channels open.
9. Keep your mouth shut.
10. Keep smiling.
Oh, how I want to interject my own experiences throughout these ten ideas...especially since I had the experience of not only living with my brother-in-law and his wife the first five years of my marriage, but also living in my mother-in-laws former home. If we had followed these rules, it would have been a much more loving and peaceful experience - especially since I was the only townie in the house!
If you are reading this, and are new to the farm, take heart. It will get better. Stand your ground. Don't nag your Farmer. And most of all, PRAY!!!
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
I guess I am a new pioneer woman. I mean, think about it, 100+ years ago a woman on the farm had little contact with the outside world. Church on Sundays, an occasional visit from the neighbors. No telephone, no texting, no internet...just living the life God gave her and raising her kids and her chickens. Getting up before the sun rose to tend her garden. Focusing on the care of her husband. Cooking three great meals a day. Was it an easy life? Duh. I'm not naive. But for me, it is the life I choose. It is the life I chose when I set out to find the Farmer.
Do I judge you for your career or your busy lifestyle? Heck no. All the power to you. I used to live in the rat race. Now, I'm the tortoise. Slow and steady wins the race. But when I say no thank you to your invite to the next "come look at the crap this lady is selling" party, don't judge me either. Don't call me anti-social. Better yet, write me a letter, I'm looking for a good old-fashioned pen pal.
Monday, July 9, 2012
Here on the farm rule number one for all visiting kids and my own is
- STAY ON THE GREEN GRASS!
Rule number two is
- LOOK BOTH WAYS! and then LOOK AGAIN!
Which brings me to rule number three and the real reason for writing this post
- NO CHILD SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO DRIVE AN ATV, RANGER, FOUR-WHEELER
My mission is to prevent any family from ever having to go through what we did THAT day. We can't forget any of the details. We question our judgment. We ask God "WHY?" We see a kid in a ditch thrown from his motorbike. And we want to tell the world that these are not toys. Gravel is no place for a child to drive anything on. Life is too precious. And sometimes, they don't wake up. We were the blessed ones, God brought our nephew back to life. But why tempt fate?
Please, don't allow your kids or visitors to ride anything motorized on your farm! Share the rules. Teach them life lessons. That's why we live how we live. To change the world.
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
And, when I find interesting articles or books about our way of life I will post them. And you can bet I will give my opinion. That's just the way we are.
Happy Birthday, America. I still believe in you.
Monday, July 2, 2012
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
We also got a new pool and a sand and water table. The girls are outside most of the day. Aiden goes out for about 30 minutes. He burns so easily, the pool is too cold and he is allergic to grass! Seriously. He gets a rash on his legs and feet. We are going to have to build that kids immunity up!
The weather is absolutely perfect. Nice breeze, lots of sun, little humidity and not too warm. The neighbors corn is already over my head. I have tomatoes turning red in my garden - this has never happened in June before. I never get ripe tomatoes until August! So I am really excited to taste one. Hopefully, sweet corn will be ready soon, too. Ours won't be ready til August, but I know Harrington's have got to be close!
The girls went to see the movie Brave with my friend Emily. She traded me her youngest daughter for my two girls for the day. Morgan is two and she and Aiden love to play together. Although he does try and kiss her a little too much!
John is out checking the hay he mowed yesterday to see how it is drying. Once it is baled I hope we get a couple more inches of rain! We really need it.
We had an electrician come and check the wiring today because we had a little fire under the kitchen sink. Apparently some mice ate the wiring. We will have all new outlets put in on the main floor and also have some lines fixed that haven't worked in ages. I am sure Cody will be glad not to have to use a drop cord to get electricity to his room. I will definitely be glad when it is all fixed. I am terrified of fire!
We took some cows and calves to pasture today. We also brought up two cow-calf pairs to the barn so the girls can start working on next year's show calves. Bonnie Blue Butler and Rhett. Which reminds me, it's time for my annual reading of Gone With the Wind...a glass of sweet tea and some shade is calling my name!
Monday, June 25, 2012
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Sunday, June 24, 2012
|Apollo loves to sleep in a bed, for real.|
|Papa Don planted us an asparagus bed this spring.|
|JaidenIlo, dance recital|
|Jaima Lulu, dance recital.|
|We have one chicken who lays "double-yolkers" everyday!|
|Daddy and his kids, before recital.|
|Ilo, after recital, getting flowers and kisses from Daddy.|
|Cody, at the kickoff show in Wave town, before the band left on tour.|
|Me and Cody, with the sign I held up during the show!|
|Lulu, leading her heifer, Blanca, at fair on Friday.|